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Stop fighting with yourself and lose weight

Self-talk is crucial. Stopping the battle starts with stopping the self-talk that fuels it. You’ve probably heard that before: what you concentrate on is what you get. This is especially true when it comes to feeling that staying healthy is a battle. Who wants to be healthy if it’s such a difficult task? You’ve undoubtedly seen, and perhaps even known, individuals who are active, healthy, and happy. When they walk, they appear to bounce. They’re active and enthusiastic about life, and they wouldn’t say it’s a challenge if you asked them. They’d question, “What do you mean?” Struggle? “I’m simply doing what I want,” they’d say, and mean it.

Forget about the fight and eat celery sticks for dinner instead. This is not correct. Despite your assumption that you can’t even look at food without gaining weight, despite the fact that you’ve lost weight before and gained it back. All of those notions are simply additional beliefs that keep you locked. What you put your attention on becomes your reality.

What if you were never hungry again?

I’m an excellent example. I’m not a fighter. I eat a lot on certain days. Some days are better than others. On some days, not much. I ate my customary breakfast yesterday and then didn’t feel hungry for the rest of the day. I had a strange sensation. I wasn’t sick, but I didn’t want to eat. “What’s going on here?” I wondered, but I decided to stick it out and see what occurred. So, I’m here to inform you that nothing occurred. I lived to see another day and tell another story. Because I didn’t eat much yesterday, nothing fell from the sky and the globe continued to revolve. Another day had passed.

I had a couple of handfuls of malted milk balls today. It’s not a huge concern to me, but I’m sure many of you are thinking, “I’d never be able to eat just some; I’d have to eat them all,” which is exactly my point. Telling yourself you can’t have “some” or “as many” because you feel you’d be forced to eat them all, no matter how many, is a notion that keeps you locked. That is not true for me since I do not believe it to be true.

Using EFT (Emotional Freedom Training) to Change a Fundamental Belief

How can you alter a deeply held belief? You begin with basic EFT and use it for anything that comes up, even if it does not appear to be connected. Every dread, uncertainty, every battle. Use it on everything, and the troubles that do affect your eating habits will start to fade away. Try it – what do you have to lose except a few pounds?

What exactly is EFT? It’s called Emotional Freedom Training, and it’s sweeping the globe as a simple, self-administered method for reducing or eliminating emotional disorders that hold us trapped. provides free information. I immediately incorporated EFT to my toolset after learning it since it is simple to understand, utilize, and effective.

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Remember those fit people I mentioned before? They don’t see how they eat or how much exercise they get as a problem. They exercise because it makes them feel good, and they consume things that make them feel good. I’m talking about regular individuals who have learned to feel good about themselves, and they probably consume a lot of the same foods you do. None of them are flawless—despite popular assumptions, there is no such thing as a “perfect” figure. Everyone has a wrinkle or two here and there. Every single one of us has a defect in some form. It’s what distinguishes us.

Choose to focus on the advantages rather than the disadvantages

Having a child comes to mind as an example of a worthwhile endeavor. Childbirth has its drawbacks, but the end result makes it all worthwhile (sure, some ladies feel amazing while pregnant, but I wasn’t one of them). Everyone would be a single child otherwise. Consider this.

Many people who played Little League and began learning the piano when they were young dream of becoming professional musicians or baseball players. Tiger Woods’ father taught him how to grip a golf club when he was 3 or 4 years old. He also showed him recordings of professional golfers as he ate his meal in his high chair (his father was weird, to say the least). Woods began playing golf at an early age and has spent his whole life doing so. He was eager to participate. His father probably pushed him to work harder than other children, but he had to be self-motivated or he would never have succeeded. But what if, when he was six years old, he suddenly said to himself, “I’m not interested in practicing. I despise golf. I’d want to play with my pals. I’ll never be excellent at his ridiculous game.”

Perhaps things would have gone differently. But, at the end of the day, he did what he did because he wanted to (his parents definitely helped a lot), and the reward? He’s now regarded as the greatest golfer of all time, and he credits his success to what? His mental discipline and practice. He learned how to utilize NLP and hypnosis techniques to harness the power of his mind from one of his key coaches (and he’s likely begun utilizing EFT as well). Learn to utilize your mind to focus on the outcomes you want – or to avoid the outcomes you don’t want – and you’ll win your reward while enjoying the process rather than dreading it.

How to Get Started

Get a box of toothpicks, matchsticks, marbles, tiny rocks, or twigs from the yard right now. Something that you can carry around with you. “I don’t want to…,” “I despise…,” or “I’m going to strangle…” if you find yourself saying something unpleasant. It doesn’t matter if you catch yourself talking or about to say anything nasty to yourself or to someone else.

Begin to notice how frequently you feed yourself bad energy. Then, as soon as you know you’re doing it, shout (to yourself) STOP and instantly replace what you were saying with something different, using the STOP approach. Here’s what I’m talking about:

“I despise having to wash the car… STOP… it’s great to stretch and bend when the automobile is being washed.”

At first, it’s stiff and forced. It will feel forced whenever you try to modify your behavior. Allow yourself to learn to adjust your self-talk, and the process’s initial unpleasantness will fade. It will become enjoyable to “catch” oneself. You’ll notice how often you’ve been feeding yourself negativity as soon as you start doing it, and how effortlessly you can break that habit.

Positive folks are often happy. I’m not saying that you change your personality, but if you really want to lose weight and never gain it back, you need to shift your focus from how hard you’ll have to work to how much better you’ll feel.